How to move on with everything against you?Wed, Nov 8th 2006
I am going through an emotionally rough divorce. Out of the blue, my wife announced that she no longer was in love with me and wanted a divorce. I honestly did not see it coming. For the kids sake, I agreed to let her keep the house etc and keep the kids routine as normal and consistant as possible. After all is said and done, I will lose my wife, my kids, my dog my house, the town I love, and everything I was involved in inside the community. With the child support and alimony I am legally being forced to pay, I cannot afford to live in the town as it is a very elite "high rent" area. I will barely be able to afford a "low level" apartment within 1/2 hour of the town. I definitely will not be able to afford a car payment or the insurance on a car, so I do not know how i will be able to "pick up the kids" on an every other weekend basis, let alone "do" anything with them without transportation. I would love to "move on" with life, but even with getting a second job at night, I find that at the end of the month, after the rent, utilities, bills, child support and alimony are paid, I barely have money for food, let alone anything left to actually ask someone out on a date. I am 45 years old, and have nothing to offer someone as far as dating etc.
I am so depressed over my life. I "had it all", and now, through no fault or action of my own, I have nothing. She truly got the gold mine and I got the shaft. Any suggestions?
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