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My needy son hates my boyfriend. How can I avoid choosing one over the other?

Wed, Dec 19th 2007

I have been divorced for almost 9 years. I have 2 children ages 22, and 14. I am now living with someone and have been for the past 4 years. We bought a house together. Before that we had been together, broke up and then got back together. When I divorced, my ex husband took my son away from me (brainwashed him) he was about 13 years old then. He has stayed with him but that was because he was able to do whatever it was that he wanted to do. He eventually got into trouble, we (my ex and I) bailed him out more than once. He is now 21 years old and my problem is this, he says that he can't stand the man that I live with. At one time when the court placed my son with me, they exchanged words telling each other that they didn't like each other. He and I ended up breaking up and I was alone with my kids for a while. It was nice, but I missed him. Eventually we got back together. My son has since had a girlfriend, lost a girlfriend, lost a daughter (born very premature) and lost a step son who his mother took (the girlfriend he lost) He is now living alone. He comes over to the house once in a while. He has now however been wanting to spend the night more often. I don't have a problem with this, but my boyfriend does. He doesn't like my kids and he doesn't trust my kids. My son can be very manipulative, just like his father, and will try and make you feel guilty for something that isn't even your fault. Well to make a long story short, what do I do when my son wants to spend the night? He sometimes needs someone around. He still sees his father, but his father will want to talk to him sometimes and makes him feel like a "loser". My son is not a loser, he is just lost. I am seriously thinking about leaving my boyfriend because I think my kids need me. Or is my son just trying to break us up and making me feel guilty. I don't know what to do. There is a lot of tension when they are both at the house. I love my son very much, but I can't let him run my life either. What should I do?

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